9 Tips for Handling Conflict

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  1. Pray for God’s help.

    Ask God to help you deal with the conflict in a godly way. Pray for Him to help you see the other person the way He sees them.

  2. Ask Questions.

    Make sure you understand where the other person is coming from. Example: Could you explain this to me a little more? I want to make sure I understand what you’re feeling/thinking.

  3. Listen Well.

    Hear the other person out before voicing your opinions, thoughts, and feelings. When the other person feels heard, it will help alleviate some of the tension between the two of you.

  4. Examine Your Expectations.

    Ask yourself why you're angry. Usually, we get angry and conflict arises because of some unmet need or expectation.

  5. Respect a Different Perspective.

    Keep in mind that different people have different perspectives, so the other person might see things completely differently than you do. Try to see things from his/her point of view.

  6. Be Humble and Admit Your Mistakes.

    It’s always good to be aware of and admit your part in a conflict.

  7. When in Doubt, Don’t Open Your Mouth.

    If you’re unsure of whether you ought to say what you want to say, keep quiet. Chances are, what you want to say could be hurtful or could be heard the wrong way.

  8. Remember You’re Responsible.

    If the other person refuses to listen to your perspective, you are still responsible for your actions. So respond in a godly way. Take a deep breath, respect the other person, and express your perspective and feelings to God instead.

  9. Pray for the Other Person.

    Pray for God to bless him/her and his/her family. Pray for their concerns and needs. Pray for God to fulfill his/her hopes and dreams. Thank God for this person.

Are there other things you can think of? Maybe things that have helped you deal with conflict? If so, leave a comment to share with our other readers.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ahhh!! It's sooo hard though!!! ugh. I so could have used this a few days ago...

Anonymous Kristen said...

You're right...it is hard! We just have to keep doing the best we can and keep asking God to help us. Each conflict is another opportunity to practice how we handle situations and to grow in character.

"...When troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing." James 1:2-4 (NLT)

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