"Mr. Right" - Part Two

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By: Autumn Sisk

1 Timothy 1:5, “The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.” (ESV)

A solid foundation on Christ ensures we don’t fall into the category of gals who expect their boyfriends and potentially future husband to make them happy all the time. If you are not happy with yourself when you meet him, then dating him won’t suddenly make you a happy person. Nobody can make you forever happy except God.

Mr. Right can only add to the happiness already inside you. If you haven’t found your constant joy in Christ, then boyfriends and ultimately your husband, will become like that new pair of jeans you think you can’t live without. After you buy and wear them a few times, you once again start to browse the stores for something new and exciting. God did not intend relationships to be this way…to jump from one to another looking for the next best thing. He does not want us to depend on anyone to fulfill us except for Him. Why? So disappointment doesn’t set in when reality hits: my husband is not perfect.

The Lord created each of us and knows we will mess up from time to time. We all make mistakes. We all make bad choices. We all get older and eventually are less beautiful than we were in our youth. Our Lord, though, never loses His beauty and can always be depended on for our every need.

I wrote this devotion to help young women see that marriage can be a beautiful blessing, and it’s important to go into it with the right information. Simply getting to a certain age and thinking you just have to get married is not the way to approach marriage. “Settling” for the first guy who tells you he loves you is not the way to go either.

First, make sure you are looking to Christ to “supply all your needs.” Do not put that burden on a boyfriend or husband. Second, be sure that your “Mr. Right” shares the same devotion to the Lord and is not looking to you as the one who can fill the empty space in his heart. Third, spend lots of time in prayer before committing to marriage. Ask your parents, pastor, counselors and friends to pray for you too.

Remember, being single is much better than being in a bad relationship. Also, dating just for the sake of dating is of no value. Your time would be better spent having quiet time with the Lord, volunteering, or hanging out with girlfriends. Finally, before you get engaged, be sure you are committed to stay married for good to your husband-to-be. Marriage is meant to last a lifetime and unless you make the conscious choice to love your husband through the ups and downs, it will not endure. Love Christ above all and your husband second. This is the recipe for happiness.


Dear Lord, please show me where I have tried to fill my heart with others instead of You. Help me make You my joy and happiness so I can love others unconditionally. I want to love others just as You love me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Want More Love? by Kathy Wierenga Buchanan

B4UD8: 7 Things You Need to know Before Your Next Date by Hayely and Michael DiMarco

Think About It:

Am I happy with myself when I am single or do I constantly feel that I need to be in a relationship to be content?

Live It:

If you are dating just to be dating, make a change. Find a group of girlfriends to hang out with or get involved in activities at your church.

Power Verses:

Romans 12:9-10, “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” (NIV)

Psalm 16:11, “You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” (ESV)

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