"A Foot Focus"

By: Katie Rath


Hebrews 12:1, “...Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” (NIV)

I am a runner, in almost every sense of the word. I picked up the sport in high school as a way to release frustration. I love running so much that when I injured my ankle a few years ago while playing volleyball, I ignored my doctor’s orders and continued running anyway, doing permanent damage to my body. I finally smartened up and have taken positive steps to get my ankle back in shape, but despite my efforts, sometimes the only way I can keep myself running through the pain or exhaustion is to watch my feet. Watching my feet forces me to push through everything and to concentrate on the task at hand. Physical pain can distract me, but so can mental anguish. The simple task of looking down sets my mind at ease. I watch my pacing feet and will them to finish my trail run, or the 5k race, or my treadmill training. Ten minutes later, I can look behind me and realize how far I’ve come, and I am encouraged even more.

I mentioned that I’m a runner in more ways than one. In truth, I do everything at a runner’s pace, even when I don’t want to. I have the type of personality that tends to overachieve, rushing through life and getting caught up in a lot of pain and frustration. In order to push myself through, I often find that I can trick myself into pushing through the same way I trick myself into running. If I can detach myself from the exhaustion, the hurt feelings, or the stress, I can focus on the task at hand. And much later down the road, I can look back and see how far I’ve come.

My “technique” has greatly influenced how I push through spiritual difficulties. We as Christians are all running a type of race that many writers discuss in Scripture. I am so easily distracted from the tasks which God sets before me, but when I feel overwhelmed or burdened, I know I need to refocus. The only difference is that instead of looking down at my feet, I look up to my God. He assures me that I’m okay, I push through the pain and the exhaustion, and I am able to continue the race set before me.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, so many of us run through life, constantly being distracted by the pain and exhaustion of this world. But You have promised to give us strength if we only look to You. Help us to not get distracted, but to push forward and complete the tasks You have given us. We know it won’t always be easy, but we know that You will be encouraging us the entire way. Thank You for taking on our burdens. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Want More Life?, by Natalie Lloyd

Biblezine 2009: The Complete New Testament for Girls (Ages 13-19)

Think About It:

What kinds of things are distracting me from doing what God needs me to do?

How can I refocus my attention on God so I can push through the hard times?

Live It:

Though you may have not realized it, all of us are runners. Some of us run away from God, some of us run right past Him, and some of us, in our best moments, run right towards Him. Can you figure out which type of runner you are? Ask your friends or family for their opinions. If you think you are the type that often runs away from or right past God, ask your accountability partner, youth leader, or trusted friend to encourage you to stay focused on your race.

Power Verses:

Acts 20:24, “However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me--the task of testifying to the gospel of God's grace.” (NIV)

Psalm 119:32, “I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart free.” (NIV)

© 2009 by Katie Rath. All rights reserved.

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Great TEXTpectations

By: Amy Puccillo

She pulled me into the bathroom during intermission of the purity conference. With great big tears she began to confess that she had engaged in inappropriate conversation while texting with a guy. Both of these teens were active members of their church youth group and grew up in Christian homes. What began as innocent flirting ended with damaging results. One thing led to another and pretty soon, this couple found themselves texting words to each other that they would never be able to actually speak out loud. Inappropriate pictures were exchanged. This caused the girl to feel guilty, shameful and impure. She knew it was wrong and wanted to stop. We prayed together and she now has an accountability partner.

This is only one example of how dangerous our impure thoughts, reckless words and hasty actions can be when we do not filter them through the Word of God. In the Old Testament, we find Daniel, who resolved not to defile himself. He was a great example of someone who could have very easily been defiled but chose not to. In fact, he took risks in order to remain pure. How about you? Have you determined to remain pure in every way? Psalm 141:3-4a says, “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. Let not my heart be drawn to what is evil” (NIV). I think this verse would make sense today if we thought about asking God to set a guard over our cell phones and keep watch over our texting.

The key to appropriate texting or conversations begin with Proverbs 21:29, “The wicked bluff their way through, but the virtuous think before they act” (NLT). Another way of putting is found in Proverbs 14:15: “A simple man believes anything, but a prudent man gives thoughts to his steps” (NIV). Take time to think before you text or speak. It is sensible and wise. Psalm 94:11 points out, “The Lord knows people’s thoughts; He knows they are worthless!” (NLT) Maybe your parents don’t know what is said or done on your cell phone, but one thing is for sure – God knows.

“For from the heart comes evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. These are what defile you…” (Matthew 15:19-20a, NLT). When you resort to doing or saying things that are not pleasing to God, it is a result of what is going on in your heart. So, where is your heart? Are you near to God and obeying His Word? Are you distant and weak? The number one way to keep out of texting trouble is to rely on the power in the Word of God. Hebrews 4:12-13 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before His eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable” (NLT).

Wow, does that passage ring true. Consider it a wake-up call from God. You can choose your ringtone however you like, but choose your text messages much more carefully in light of God’s Word.

© 2009 by Amy Pucillo. All rights reserved.

* Thrift Store Shopping *

Ever find yourself short on money but you just HAVE to have something new to wear? I know the feeling!

Thrift stores and consignment shops are fabulous places to find special pieces to update your wardrobe but you have to be willing to use your fashion savvy when shopping in places like these. Here’s the thing, when you walk into thrift or consignment stores it’s very rare that you get that “new” smell. That’s because things aren’t new, silly! You’ve got to find your deep down fashion diva and get your eyes looking for something wonderful!

Here’s the way to do it:

• Go with an open mind. You probably won’t find that perfect pair of jeans you need right now but you might find the perfect top to go with something you already have.
  
• Know the colors that look best on you and seek them out. If black is definitely NOT your color, than skip the black items and look at only the colors that look good on you. You might find three cute tops in your best colors so leave the rest alone and try these on.
  
• Don’t look at price first. When trying on the clothes make sure you really like something based on how it looks, not by how inexpensive it is. That’s a good way to end up with a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear because you bought clothes just because they were cheap!
  
• Look for accessories in these shops. This is a super duper way to find some really great pieces of jewelry at half the price of what you would in full retail stores. Scarves should be in big supply right now in these shops so stock up on them because they’ll raise your fashion quotient by a gazillion percent! They make any outfit look more hip!
  
• Look for a Plato’s Closet in your area. This a fantastic store for teen clothes AND you can turn in your gently worn fashionables for cash! They take everything teen oriented from books and CD’s to jeans, tops, dresses, shoes and handbags. They have a “brand name” standard so they don’t take everything, so check and see what they will take.
  
• Vintage stores are a way to shop for items like pretty blouses, skirts and antique jewelry. Just one or two of these pieces will bring beauty to your wardrobe.
  
  

Have fun shopping in places like thrift, consignment and vintage stores. Try the local Goodwill or Salvation Army, too, for fun things to decorate your room. Get creative with your wardrobe and your living space by looking outside the box! Be original and don’t settle for paying full price when there are one of a kind finds that will spuce up your wardrobe. Look on-line to find stores close to you and take your best friend along to see who can find the coolest top or accessory by making a game of it. See who has the best fashion “nose” in a place like this…snoop around, check it out and make shopping in these unique, very inexpensive stores an adventure!

Beautiful Blessings,

Shari Braendel

www.fashionmeetsfaith.com

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"God Thinks of Me?"

By: Angela Parsley

Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (NKJV)

Are you struggling? Is there something in your life right now that just does not seem right? Do you wonder where God is? Well, so did the children of Israel – God’s chosen people – when God spoke these words to them.

The Israelites were in a situation where they had been taken captive by the Babylonians. This was not a fun thing for them. They were taken from their homes with nothing and relocated to a home that was not their own. Not only were they relocated but they lost their homes in the “land flowing with milk and honey“ a.k.a. the Promised Land.
They were relocated because of their sin. They refused to listen to God. So God allowed what was best for them, discipline. As painful as it was, it was necessary. It is also necessary in our own lives.

God’s word states, “Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons” (Hebrews 12:7-8, NIV). Discipline and hardship in our lives are unavoidable. Sometimes discipline and hardship come because of our sin, and sometimes they come just as an inevitable part of life. Thankfully, God can use them to mold and shape us more into the image of Christ.

The beautiful thing here that shows us the heart of God is that His thoughts toward His children, the Israelites, who messed up big time, were peaceful and thoughts of giving them hope and a good future. Now that is mercy and grace like no other.

So, if you are struggling in some way because of your own sin or wrong choices or if you are just enduring a hard time in this hard life, be encouraged. God thinks of you. He will not let you stay in this hard time forever. He has a great future for you, and in this we should all place our hope.

Prayer:

Father, thank You so much for Your mercy and grace. We are so thankful. Thank You for refusing to leave us the same. Lord, continue to mold us into Your image and forgive us when we do not do things the way You desire. Help us follow You as You guide us in the right direction. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:

For Such a Time As This, by Lisa Ryan

My Life Unscripted: Who's Writing Your Life?, by Tricia Goyer

Think About It:

What hard things are you facing in your life right now?

What do you think God is thinking of you right now? Remember, they are never evil thoughts; those only come from our enemy.

Live It:

Journal each day about the things God is doing in your life. You will be happy to look back at the entries later down the road. This can be a great testament of what God has brought you though.

Don’t be so quick to judge people when they are going through tough times because of poor choices. God showed (and continues to show) great mercy and grace toward us. Instead of judgment, pray for those people.

Power Verses:

Zephaniah 3:17, “The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." (NIV)

Psalm 92:5, “How great are your works, O LORD, how profound your thoughts!” (NIV)

© 2009 by Angela Parsley. All rights reserved.

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"Hurtful Words"

By: Autumn Sisk

Psalm 12:2, “Everyone lies to his neighbor; their flattering lips speak with deception.” (NIV)

They ran up to me and said, “He says he likes you and wants to go out with you!” My face must have looked like I had seen a ghost. I was a quiet, somewhat nerdy tomboy when I was in middle school. I had tried and become more “girlie” my freshman year in high school, but I still wasn’t all that cute or cool. I knew the boy I was crazy about wasn’t interested in me, but the girls I ate lunch with each day wouldn’t leave it alone. They were cheerleaders who were cute, popular and had lots of boyfriends. I had no boyfriends and had a huge crush on one of the cutest football players in school. He was very nice to me, but I knew he wouldn’t date me.

I begged the girls not to say anything to him, but they insisted. When they told me he said he liked me, I was shocked. That was until one of my other friends told me later what really happened. The girls nagged my crush until he finally said he liked me, but only as a friend. He didn’t want to date me. I was so embarrassed and ashamed I wanted to crawl under a rock and never come out!

Why did those girls do that to me? Wasn’t it enough that they were cuter and more popular than me? I didn’t need them embarrassing me to death on top of it. I didn’t want them to say anything to him in the first place, but then they had to lie to me about it!!! I would have been fine if they had just told me the truth. I would have taken that much better.

Unfortunately, this was not my only experience like this in school. In fact, it was very common among the girls I knew. I still see it among women every day.

As a result of my experiences, I try hard not to gossip or talk about others behind their backs. I also try not to stretch the truth in order to keep from hurting another person’s feelings. My motto is: If you can’t say something nice about someone, keep it to yourself. If you can’t be honest to the person, don’t lie about it! The worst thing that I can think of is having someone tell me I look great, and hear later that the person was making fun of me when I walked away. You don’t have to compliment every person you see. If you don’t like Chrissie’s purse, don’t tell her you do just to have something to say!

Christ was very honest with the people He interacted with. He didn’t give backward compliments or say things He didn’t mean just to be nice. He treated everyone with love and respect. We should strive to truly care for others and their feelings. Our words should build up the self-esteem of others. If you learn to be honest but loving, your friendships will be stronger. You will also build trust among your friends.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, thank you for loving me, just as I am. Help me to love others and teach me to use loving and kind words with everyone. I don’t want to be hurtful or two-faced. Help me to be more like you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Being a Girl Who Leads: Becoming a Leader by Following Christ, by Shannon Kubiak Primicerio

Think About It:

Do my friends talk about other friends when they aren’t around? Do I join in?

How can I learn to use loving words at all times?

Live It:

Pray and ask God to show you each time you are talking about others in a way that doesn’t bring Him glory.

Ask your friends to help you cut out the insults and gossip in your everyday life.

Power Verses:

Proverbs 12:22, “The Lord detests lying lips but He delights in men (women) who are truthful.” (NIV)

Proverbs 4:24, “Put away perversity from your mouth, keep corrupt talk from your lips.” (NIV)

© 2009 by Autumn Sisk. All rights reserved.

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My best friend, catherine, and i spend every minute we can together. We support each other and tell one another everything. We've known each other since we were 7(we met at swim team.) A short time after that she left her catholic church and became a member of my church. A few year's later she accepted Christ into her heart and was baptized. We have had some rough spots in our relationship though. Many times we get into fights and it can be rough. I think this book could expand our relationship and teach us how to love other's more than ourselves. We can make new friends and bring people to Christ. Although we still have a long way to go. Thanks. Francie H. (12)

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* Swimmin' *

Finally! You’ve arrived at the pool! You can hardly wait to dive into that cool azure water…Oh – you have to change first. Your swimsuit. You eye your new bikini you brought. Sure, it’s at the height of fashion, but it suddenly strikes you that it looks exactly like your underwear.

Swimming doesn’t sound quite so appealing anymore. You glance at your older brother and his friends splashing in the pool; an embarrassed blush creeps up your cheeks.

“Oh, hi!” shouts a voice near you. You realize you were looking at the concrete. You wave hello to your friend. “Hi.”

She flips her long blonde hair out of her face. “Y’okay?”

“Yeah, thanks. I just . . .” your gaze falls back to the bikini lying limply in your hands.

“Oh, so it’s that.” She laughs. “I’ve got a solution for you. Notice anything new?” she twirls around. You see she’s wearing what you think is a swimsuit: a short sleeved hot pink swim shirt and shorts.

“Cool! I like the pink!” you say.

“Me too! It’s a hot new fashion – inspired by the ‘Aussie surfer girl’ look. You don’t have to put on so much sunscreen or worry about what happens when you dive and show off your handstands!” she giggles, “And it’s pretty!”

“Sure thing. I really like it! It’s so...so...”

“Awesome!” another friend finishes for you. He’s dripping wet with a humongous grin on his cheerful face. He looks at your friend. “Yep. You look great.” He flashes a look at you, then back to your friend. “It’s – um – it covers you.” His expression turns bashful. “I mean you look nice.” He takes a running jump into the pool.

1 Timothy 2:8 -10, “I desire then that . . . likewise also . . . women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control . . . with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.” (ESV)

Your friend smiles. She continues, “What were we talking about? Oh yes. Mom picked up my swimsuit from this website: Roxy.com. She never liked my bikini and my birthday was coming up, anyway. Dad wanted to get a cheaper swimsuit from Lands’ End, L.L. Bean, or Target. But Mom said it was my birthday, and why not? So Dad had to say yes.”

You sigh with relief and drop your bikini back into your beach bag. “Hey, let’s go shopping!”

Websites to check out:
http://www.roxy.com/
http://www.target.com/
http://www.landsend.com/
http://www.llbean.com/

Have fun being beautiful and modest! And don’t forget the sunscreen!

~ Esther Grace

~ Mikela's Testimony ~

A few weeks ago, we asked you to share a story of what God has done in your life to encourage other readers. Here's Mikela's story...

On Jan. 3, 2005 I was only 9 when my mom got a call from our family doc and he said that I was diabetic. I started 2 cry because I had no idea what that was or what it meant. So my grandma and grandpa drove us to the hospital and then I got my first IV shot that night an also got transferred to Riley Children’s Hospital. I had to move to 3 different rooms in 2 days. Then my dad and my aunt Kathy and my grandpa and grandma visited me too. My mom was with me there too. After that we had to take shot classes on how to use a syringe and everything. I was in the hospital for 3 to 5 days then I finally got out and it was hard for me to go back to school cause I was so embarrassed by my diabetes that I did not tell very many people. But now I am 13 years old and not embarrassed by my diabetes anymore. I made it through 4 hard years and I’m still diabetic but now all of my friends know that I am diabetic. Sometimes I give up on things cause sometimes I think that since I have diabetes then I can’t do anything, but that’s not true. You see, my dream is to become a professional musician. And I’m still believing in that dream. Many people inspire me. Sure sometimes I get mad at me being diabetic and ask God why me but then I say to myself it was for a reason and that’s so true. One day I’m gonna talk to all the kids in America who have diseases and I’m gonna tell them my story, a.k.a. my testimony. Yeah that’s right. Everything is for a reason, both the good and the bad.

~Mikela W., Illinois, 13 years old

*If you would like to share your testimony of what God is doing or what He has done in your life, send your story to radrevolution@proverbs31.org.

"The Meeting Place"

By: Emily Watkins

Exodus 33:7, 11, “Now Moses use to take a tent and pitch it outside the camp some distance away, calling it the “tent of meeting.” Anyone inquiring of the Lord would go to the tent of meeting outside the camp...The Lord would speak to Moses face to face as a man speaks with his friend.” (NIV)

Worship does for me what a cup of Starbucks coffee or a chocolate sundae does for some. Sometimes when I worship, I can feel the gratifying warmth and joy of God's presence, and then all my problems seem to hide and I tremble in the awe of the all-powerful Creator. A touch from the Holy Spirit is wonderful, but I want so much more than just a pleasant experience, more than just “goose bumps and tears.” I want the constant awareness of the fullness of God in me, not just when I worship. Just like Moses, I want to speak to God “face to face” as I would to a friend.

Moses had many responsibilities as the leader of Israel, but amidst his busyness, he set a special time and place to meet with God. He took a tent and pitched it far away from the noise and chaos of everyday life, somewhere quiet and secluded where he could listen to God. There, in the tent, the Lord “would speak to Moses face to face as a man speaks to a friend.”

I have always found this amazing about Moses. There are few men in the Bible that God spoke to audibly, let alone “face to face!” In the Old Testament such an encounter with God was a rarity, even though everyone in Israel had the opportunity to meet with God in the tabernacle every day. All they had to do was go outside the camp. It is interesting that God did not tell Moses to put the “tent of meeting” in the middle of the camp, which would be more convenient and accessible for everyone. Instead he chose a location that would require sacrifice and discipline to reach. God would reveal Himself only to those who took the time and effort to go outside the camp to meet with Him.

This passage teaches me that “wanting” a deeper relationship with God isn't enough. Just like the Israelites, I have to be willing to step outside my “comfort zone” and radically pursue God as my closest friend.

Building any relationship takes time and effort. Sometimes it requires sacrifice. When a girlfriend calls me and wants to get together, I do everything I can to make time for her, even if it means putting aside the things I would rather do. Sometimes it requires effort on my part, but it is worth it. God promises us “great and unsearchable things” if we will only be His friend and talk with Him (Jeremiah 33:3).

God's not going to force us to be His friend. Even though His heart is bursting with longing towards us, He still gives us a choice. The Bible compares Jesus to the father in the story of the prodigal son and to a lover peering over the lattices - He is constantly waiting, and desperately longing to meet with us every day (Luke 15:11-32, Song of Solomon 2:9). All we have to do is go, go and be with Jesus, drop what we are doing and run after Him. What could be more important than spending time with the King of Kings?

Prayer:

Dear Jesus, thank You so much for being my closest friend and for loving me with everlasting love. I know that many times I choose other things above You, but help me to choose what is best: spending time with You. Guide me out of “my comfort zone” into Your “tent” of close friendship. I want to be a friend who is there for You always, just like You are for me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:

The Bare Bones Bible Handbook for Teens: Getting to Know Every Book in the Bible, by Jim George

Biblezine 2009: The Complete New Testament for Girls

Think About It:

What did the Israelites have to do to meet with God?

When was the last time you just sat and talked to God like a friend?

Live It:

Set a side a time each day to meet with God. I have found that if I don't plan God into my day, then most of the times He will end up getting left out. Think about your daily schedule and pick a time when you can be quiet and spend time alone with God. I like to have my “quiet times” in the mornings before school or my activities for the day, because then I know that no one will disturb me. I encourage you to come “out of your comfort zone” and spend time with your best friend – Jesus. Let Him speak to you face to face.

Power Verses:

John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this,that he lay down his life for his friends.” (NIV)
(Jesus laid down His life for us!)

Isaiah 30:18, “The Lord longs to be gracious to you; He rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for Him!” (NIV)

© 2009 by Emily Watkins. All rights reserved.

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"Spiritual Reality"

By: Yvonne Mendoza

Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” (NIV)

Throughout my high school years, every summer I looked forward to one thing…Church Camp! I looked forward to my preacher Bob and the connection I had with Jesus that whole week. Then when the last day would come, I would pack up and leave Jesus there.

As I look back, it saddens me that for four years I left God at that camp. It was as if it was an unwritten rule that when I got back from the closest thing to heaven, me and God were just as far apart as we were before I left for camp.

How do we keep our spiritual fire? How do our hearts remain pure and continue thirsting for Him? How can we feel like we are at church camp everyday? I recently discovered the answer to all these questions: Seek God first.

Battling life without God is difficult. When we try to do this, we will always lose. We begin to sink as we search in all the wrong places for safety and fulfillment. Sadly, once all other options fail us, then we seek God.

When seeking God becomes a priority for us, our lives are radically changed. Life is still a battle, but it’s much easier with God by our side. We begin to live life for God and with God. We begin choosing the right path. Sinking into worldly problems becomes a thing of the past. We don’t have to search for peace and tranquility anymore because we have it. We awake with joy. We begin to love God and others unconditionally. God’s heart’s desires become ours and we see them fulfilled. Our sin is erased by His mercy and we experience His grace in new ways.

The reality is sometimes we ourselves are the interference between God’s love and us. Why do we allow a wedge between God and ourselves? Why do we leave the Creator of all things second in our lives? Why do we give Him what’s left over from our lives? Why do we leave Him at church camp or church on Sunday mornings when we can have Him with us all the time?

We must realize that our God wants all of us. Let God renew your spirit. Pray for a thirsty heart. Wait patiently. Your desire for Him will be the greatest blessing and joy you can receive. Be ready to be changed. In your heart, mind and soul He will “renew a right spirit within you.” This is the spiritual reality of those who seek Him.

Prayer:

Dear God, thank You for loving me unconditionally. Lord, help me seek You day by day. Allows me to fall madly in love with You and Your Word. Help me make You my priority. Lord, I want to walk with You day by day. Help me grow and become a better servant for You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Making It Real: Whose Faith Is It Anyway?, by T. Suzanne Eller

Holding His Hand: A Devotional for Teen Girls, by Beka Dewitt

Think About It:

When and where have you felt most connected to God?

How can you incorporate God into your daily life?

Live It:

Pray and ask God to give you the right spirit during mission trips, church camps and youth activities.

Pray with your church friends or a prayer partner and join or sign up for missions trips and church camps. Involve yourself in Christian activities.

Power Verses:

James 4:8, “Come near to God and He will come near to you…”(NIV)

Psalm 27:4, “One thing I ask of the Lord, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in His temple. “ (NIV)

© 2009 by Yvonne Mendoza. All rights reserved.

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How do you find God in your daily life?

Book Giveaway: Every Teen Girl's Little Pink Book on Girlfriends

Every girl needs a good girlfriend, right?!

If you want to know how to be a good friend and have great friendships, you need to read "Every Teen Girl's Little Pink Book on Girlfriends" by Cathy Bartel.

Here's an excerpt from the book:

"There are always those people you are naturally attracted to, those friends you want to spend all of your free time with. What is it about those people that makes others want to be around them? Here are 5 character traits that make people 'friend magnets.'

1. Happiness

2. Encouragement

3. Generosity

4. Objectiveness

5. Helpfulness"

*Win TWO FREE COPIES of this book!*

Leave a comment telling us about your best girlfriend and what makes her such a great friend.

Your name will be entered into a drawing for two free copies of this book, one for you and one for your friend. Please include your email address and age with your giveaway entry. One winner will be chosen. Deadline for giveaway entries is midnight on Sunday, July 19, 2009.

(You must be between the ages of 12 and 18 to enter and must not have won anything from Proverbs 31 Ministries within the last six months.)

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* I Just Gotta Say... *

This weekend I had the opportunity to go to the beach and spend some time relaxing and watching my son play in a basketball showcase tournament. The games were spread out over a few days so that meant lots of downtime for my husband and me to sit on our beach chairs and take in some sunshine.

You know how it goes. You’re sitting there taking in all the sights, watching young children play with their sand toys, glancing at boys throwing a football to each other and…oh my goodness, getting to see how everyone’s swimsuit looks on them. Oh, you don’t do that? Well, maybe it’s just me, but since I’m in the fashion biz I just can’t seem to help it.

When we weren’t at the beach, we were strolling down streets looking for neat outdoor restaurants to have lunch at or we were in a smelly, sweaty gymnasium watching teenage boys play basketball.

All in all, I had many opportunities to see how girls are dressing these days.
And I just gotta say…WHAT’S WITH ALL THE BRA STRAPS?

Seriously girls, what are you thinking? And wait a minute, it’s not just teenage girls, but it’s girls who are even younger AND its women who should know better. Just because it’s in style, doesn’t make it right. Did you hear me? I’ll say it again.

Just because it’s in style, doesn’t make it right.

There was a young dark skinned gal sitting in front of me at one of the ball games. She had on a black tank top with her white bra straps boldly screaming out, “look at me, look at me”! And then there was the mom of one of the players on the other team. She had on a bright blue bra with a light tan, almost see through shirt. (At least she had on a bra that day, because the next day, she decided not to wear one at all. And she wasn’t small chested, either.) Young, old, and in between, I saw more bra straps this weekend than I cared to.

Can I just ask you to pleeeeease look in the mirror from all directions before you leave the house today? If you need to put on a strapless bra to wear with that dress or top, then please do that. If you don’t own a strapless bra, then run, don’t walk, to the nearest store to get one. I also want to remind you that camisole straps LOOK like bra straps, and they aren’t appropriate either.

So girl, set the standard for dressing appropriately. Take the time today to notice what others are wearing and see how many bra straps you see that you shouldn’t. I’d love for you to comment back here and tell me your finds. It’ll be nice to know I’m not the only one who notices these things. And for now, just say NO…to bra straps peeking out of your clothes. It’s just not pretty, at all.

Beautiful Blessings,
Shari Braendel

www.fashionmeetsfaith.com

It's All About Accountability

By: Alyssa Avant

Genesis 4:7, “If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." (NIV)

Temptation. Sometimes it completely stares you in the face. You aren't sure what to do and you just wish you could for once not give into it. You may wonder, “How can I keep from giving into temptation, especially giving in to the same sin over and over again?”

When I was a teenager, I often gave in to the same sins over and over again. For instances, lying to my parents just got easier and easier as I did it. One little white lie led to another until there was no way I could untangle the web I had woven.

The one thing that saved me in high school from continuing to repeat the same sins was having good friends that I could trust and that would hold me accountable for my actions.
What does it mean to be held “accountable”? When you are held accountable, you are “subject to explanation.” You must, therefore, explain your actions. If your only reason for sinning is “the devil made me do it,” then you're going to be in big trouble.

In order to truly be held “accountable” you must be willing to be honest and to also be responsible for your actions.

It may sound a bit scary. It is extremely personal, but having a relationship with someone (or a few people) that you can trust and who will hold you accountable is a great way to stop giving in to those same temptations over and over again.

When looking for an accountability partner it is important to look for someone who:

• Is the same gender. It’s better to share your struggles with another female. Having a guy for an accountability partner could be very dangerous!

• Is close to you in age. This may not necessarily mean chronological age, but may also mean maturity level. We all mature at different speeds and you’ll want to take Christian maturity into account as well. You will need to be on the same level with this person.

• Is trustworthy. You will need to be able to discuss personal issues with the person and be able to trust that they will keep them confidential.

• Shares the same morals and beliefs. In order to be able to hold each other accountable you will have to have the same morals and beliefs. If you don’t believe in drinking alcohol but your accountability partner does, you won’t be able to truly be held accountable.

• Will pray for you. James 5:16 says to “confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” Prayer makes a difference!
  

While an accountability partner cannot keep you from sinning, she will help you remember that you are striving to stay away from temptation and avoid sin, especially those that are difficult for you. Together, you and an accountability partner can be a great help to each other to keep each other on track and away from temptation.

"Solitaire"

By: Katie Rath

1 Peter 2:17, “Honor everyone. Keep on loving the community of believers, fearing God, and honoring the king.” (ISV)

I love the card game solitaire. I love repeatedly flipping through the cards, rarely discouraged by how many times I lose; I just keep playing until I win. Sometimes I even make a game out of the game, telling my cards that I won’t go to sleep or take a shower or read my devotions until I win. I have played so many times that I have “lucky cards” or preferred decks of cards that I am sure will help me win. For me, solitaire is the perfect mix of a mindless game that still keeps you thinking. But what I love best about solitaire is the most basic part of the game – you play alone.

A few years ago, I shared my love of the solitude of solitaire with my mother, and she told me something that absolutely shocked me. She told me that there are versions of solitaire that you can play with other people! What?! Involving others in the game undermines the name of the game and ruins the entire thing! But she assured me that playing solitaire with other people was more fun than playing alone, and it took strategy and speed. She invited me and my sister to come to the kitchen table, and she taught us how to play multi-player solitaire. Although I’m not completely convinced that it’s the best way to play, I had to admit that playing solitaire with other people was indeed fun.

There are some of us who absolutely love the community aspect of life. We are co-dependent people who appreciate being with other people and prefer not to be alone, especially when going through hard times. And then there are other people who prefer to go at it by themselves, just like I like playing the game of solitaire alone. But in a community of Christians, walking alone, while more comfortable for some people, is often the least desirable circumstance.

Scripture is adamant about community. Multiple times we as Christians are told we should desire to be a part of Christ’s family. Jesus’ analogy of the Church being a body furthers explains that we need each other to fulfill our duties to Christ, and that without each other, we wouldn’t make it very far at all and we are more susceptible to Satan’s advances.

God created humans as relational beings. God made a partner for Adam, and then He gave them children, and the concept of a family was formed. Friendship is another strong element in the Bible. Community is so important to Jesus that He lived His own life in that way, sharing everything with His disciples. Our interactions with other people are meant for encouragement and love; starving yourself of those things is spitting in the eye of the God who made you to crave them. Maybe you’re the type of person who doesn’t recognize the need for community, and you’d rather just be alone. However, even in our most solitary moments, we are never alone; we always have Jesus beside us.

Prayer:

God, You have made us to love each other. Sometimes it’s not easy to love the people around us, but I pray that You help strengthen us to appreciate the community around us. Help us to love our families and friends and respect them as You would. Help us to really care about other people and enjoy the body of Christ, of which we are members. You created us to live among other people, and I pray that You would help us recognize how important that is, even when we’d rather be alone. You are so good. Thank You for giving us our families and friends. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Every Teen Girl's Little Pink Book on Girlfriends, by Cathy Bartel

Dark Blue: Color Me Lonely, by Melody Carlson

Think About It:

Am I someone who likes being alone or with other people?

How can I still show my family and friends I love them even if I don’t always like being with them?

Live It:

Are you the type of person who likes being around people or being alone? Even though it isn’t good for people to be alone, God made you who you are for a reason. Think about ways that you can still serve God and love other people, while primarily working by yourself. Serving in quiet places like a library or an office are great ways to love your community while still mainly being by yourself.

Power Verses:

Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” (NAS)

1 Thessalonians 5:11, “So then, encourage one another and build each other up, as you are doing.” (NIV)

© 2009 by Katie Rath. All rights reserved.

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Share with us a time when having a good friend was exactly what you needed or when you were the friend another person needed.

"Light Your Path"

By: Rachel Lowman

Psalm 119:105-107, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. I have sworn and I will confirm it, that I will keep Your righteous ordinances. I am exceedingly afflicted; Revive me, O Lord, according to Your word.” (NASB)

This is a commonly quoted verse that has much more meaning than one might think when looking at the verse from the surface. The Word is a place of conviction, restoration, and redemption. This realization did not completely set in until recently for me. I went to church, as I do every Sunday, and the speaker that day spoke on reaching our world for Christ and allowing our walk to be one that impacts others. A true story he told convicted my heart in a way I did not expect. The story was one of three guys who were discussing the Word and Jesus with an atheist. They had gone on for a few hours about how the Word of God is truth and is complete. Finally the atheist asked something to the effect of, “Have you all read through this Bible you believe?” Spellbound, these men all said no and the atheist simply laughed, asking how they know it is all the truth when they haven’t even read the whole thing.

Once I heard that closing to the story I sat shocked with the idea that the atheist was right! How do I expect other people to believe in the Lord and that His Word is completely infallible when I haven’t read the whole thing?!?

So now I ask you: Have you read this book that we say is complete truth? I know I haven’t read it all, cover to cover. But guess what? Reading the whole Bible is now one of my goals for this year. Why? I want to be able to tell people without a doubt the Bible is truth and I stand upon it without wavering.

The verse above from Psalms lays it out perfectly: The Word of the Lord
is a lamp for our feet and a light for our path. You and I must bind ourselves to the Word, for it revives and renews our afflicted lives. The Lord wants us to know Him and to make Him known; thus, we must be aware of what He says.

I challenge you, if you haven’t already, to read the Bible in a year or make it a goal to read two chapters of the Old and New Testament until you’re done. If you’ve already done it again, read through it again; you will be amazed at all the new things you see as you read. Though some may not make complete sense to us now, it still lets us know of the laws before and how they were fulfilled through Christ. So let us become enthralled with the words of the Lord we worship, in order for us to share the love and greatness of our God to the rest of the world.

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for making Your Word accessible to me. I pray You forgive me for being apathetic about Your Word. Please help me to read Your Word with such diligence so that I may learn more about You than I have ever known. Help my eyes be open to those around me who are unaware of Your love and greatness. Give me strength to share Your love with them as I continue to learn more about You. Thank You for being God and loving me despite my struggles. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:

One Year Bible Reading Plan

Teen Devotional Bible

Think About It:

How do my life choices reflect God’s truth to this lost world?

In what ways can I become more in love with the Word than I am now?

Live It:

Begin spending 15 minutes a day just focusing on the Lord increasing that time as the communion grows deeper.

Keep a journal of what you do not completely understand from the Word.
Also write down the lessons you learn and discuss and share them with a close friend or parent.

Power Verses:

2 Timothy 3:16-17, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (NIV)

Psalm 119:10-11, “I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” (NIV)

© 2009 by Rachel Lowman. All rights reserved.

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+ Tell the Truth +

Proverbs 12:22, “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth.” (NLT)

We all know we’re not supposed to lie. We learned that from the time we’re little. Have you ever been in a situation, though, where you’ve been caught doing something you weren’t supposed to and it’s much easier to tell a “little lie” than to admit the truth? It’s much harder to keep the truth hidden than to admit it from the beginning because you have to continue to tell more lies to cover it up. This verse shows us that God loves the truth and hates lies. We should too.

Reflect on This: Are you being completely truthful in all areas of your life? If not, in what areas are you lying to others, yourself, or God?

Do This: This week, make an effort to speak truth and only truth. If what you are about to say is not true or would be hurtful to another person, such as gossip, do not allow yourself to say it. Then rejoice because the Lord delights in you as you are truthful.

* The Makeover *

Before / After

Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (ESV)

Have you ever had a makeover? My experience was totally worth it…


“We’re ready!” Mom smiles.


“Ooh!” I follow Mom into the sandy-colored, tiled bathroom where our guest is waiting.


Our guest, Cynthia, croons to Mom, “Now you go and rest, sweetie-pie.” Mom opens her mouth to protest, but sighs; she does need rest.


I turn to Miss Cynthia. “I’m extra glad you came! I do need a makeover for my author photo.”


“No problem, girlfriend! Now, I need to blow dry your hair into the right shape.” She fingers my hair, long dry since my morning shower. “It has to be wet first.”


She takes the shower head and wets my hair only. Armed with a hair dryer, she works wonders on my hair. Layer by layer, against gravity – until it’s time for the curling iron.


“Do you want sausage curls, or waves?”


A million imaginations emerge before I decide. “Waves, please.”


“Alright,” She wraps a strand of hair around the curling iron. A wisp of steam rises. She unwinds the strand. I smile; it looks good.


She continues curling strands of hair here and there. Conversation bounces around until the final touch: hairspray.

1 Corinthians 11:15a, “But if a woman has long hair, it is her glory?” (ESV)

At last my hair is done! I stare at the mirror. Could that be me?


Our guest laughs and beams bigger as she pulls some powders out of her cosmetics bag.


“Green is the color that counteracts red best. But I didn’t bring that. The next best is yellow.” She dusts the yellow cover stick on my face. Gently, she uses her finger to ”tap” foundation under my eyes; a fluffy makeup brush blends the mixture smoothly. Mascara and eyebrow definition are added. “Hmmm . . .” she stands back and surveys me as I pose for her.


“Some water would help.” Her nimble fingers dab a few drops of water and mix it gently with the foundation. “There; that looks much more natural.”


I grin at myself in the mirror and am astonished at the reflection smiling back at me.


“Like it?” Cynthia asks. I can only answer with a huge hug.


Here are some “must haves” for your makeover:

• Curling iron
• Hair dryer
• Hairspray
• Eyebrow definer
• Green (or yellow) cover stick
• Foundation
• Makeup brush
• Mascara
• A fun and stylish outfit
• And of course…A fabulous makeover artist like Miss Cynthia! (or your best friend!)

If you’re missing something off the list, don’t worry: only the hair dryer was my own. The rest of the materials were borrowed! If you need any makeup, hair products or clothes, just borrow them from a friend.


A makeover might be used for school photos, cotillion balls (formal balls), or perhaps just for fun! So grab a friend, borrow her stuff, and have a makeover! Oh, and make sure to take a before and after picture so you can see the difference in your gorgeous self!

Most importantly, remember God made you the way you are and –

1 Peter 3:4,“…let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” (ESV)

~Esther Grace

+ Praise Corner +

Has God worked in your life?


We want to hear about it!


If you’d like to share a testimony of what God has done, please send it to radrevolution@proverbs31.org. We will post testimonies from time to time.


Please keep your testimony to 300 words or less.


Let's encourage each other!!

"Trusting God in the Impossible"

By: Mary Geer

Luke 18:27, “Jesus replied, 'What is impossible with men is possible with God.'" (NIV)

Do you have a situation you are facing that just seems completely impossible? Maybe school’s out for the summer and you don’t know what to do with your time, or you’re looking for a part time job but everything seems to already be taken. You would love to spend the summer at the beach with friends, but your parents are saying no! You and your boyfriend have been “experimenting” and you got pregnant!


Well, I know a lot about impossible situations! When I was 19 years old, I was in a car accident that left me completely paralyzed. I didn’t move! All I could do was lie on my back, breathe and blink my eyes once for yes and twice for no.


As I faced my impossible situation of even trying to move, live, or ever speak again on my own, I was filled with an incredible peace – peace that can only come from God. I spent 81 days in the hospital and months in therapy.


Throughout my recovery I continued to have His peace surround me. Nothing bothered me. I knew that I would live a full and complete life, and God is faithful! As I trusted Him He took care of every need I had. Now, I’m not saying it was an easy road. It wasn’t! There was a lot of work on my part. However, through it all, I knew God was with me, providing for me and healing my body.


God is all-knowing and all-powerful. Nothing takes Him by surprise! He’s the beginning and the end. He sees all. There is nothing going on in your life that He doesn’t know about, so why not trust Him in the midst of it? All you have to do is open up your heart and mind and ask Him to take over. He will lead you, guide you and protect you when you trust in Him!


Prayer:


Lord, You know the situation I am faced with and I ask that You come in and take over. Help me to put my trust in You! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


Related Resources:


Do You Know Jesus?


Life Style: Radical Perspectives from Radical Women in the Bible, by Whitney Prosperi


Think About It:


What situations am I currently facing that I need to completely turn over to God?


How can I encourage others to trust more in God when they are faced with an impossible situation?


Live It:


When you are hit with a tough situation, where do you run? Who do you turn to first? Next time you find yourself in that place, make a choice to run to Jesus first!


Power Verses:


Philippians 4:7, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (NIV)


Jeremiah 32:27, “I am the Lord, the God of all the peoples of the world. Is anything too hard for me?” (NLT)

© 2009 by Mary Geer. All rights reserved.

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"What Kind of Leader Will You Be?"

By: Angela Parsley

Proverbs 16:13, “Good leaders cultivate honest speech; they love advisors who tell them the truth.” (MSG)

Have you sat and watched the news lately? If you have for any amount of time it is so sad to see all of the lying and scheming that goes on with leaders. No one is excluded. It involves leaders in various companies, the government, and even the church. Yet as much as that occurs, it is never God’s will.

If you really want to be a good leader, then consider God’s kingdom rules. I just love the Proverbs because they give us such great wisdom for everyday life. This one gives us the definition of a good leader. He or she is one who cultivates honest speech. What does this mean? They value honesty. There is nothing too complicated about that! Not only do good leaders speak honestly and with integrity, but they also surround themselves with others who do the same. Good leaders are not lone rangers. They have advisors and they love for those advisors to tell them the truth. Consider what Proverbs 15:22 says about the importance of having people advise us: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed” (NIV). Good leaders realize they need honest advisors in their lives to help them continue to walk in the truth.

What kind of leaders has God placed in your life? Look at them and check them by this list:Are they honest? Do they love the truth? Do they have advisors who are honest? Do they listen to their advisors’ input? If the answer is yes to these questions then you have a good leader set before you.

You are going to be a leader in this country one day if you are not already. Test yourself in this too. Do you tell the truth no matter what? If not, why not? Do you love the truth? Do you allow people to advise you, even sometimes when the truth is hard to hear? Don’t ever think you are too young to start thinking about your future. Decide now what kind of leader you will be. Begin developing godly habits to make you a great leader!

Prayer:

Father, thank You for giving us the perfect example of leadership through Christ. He was perfect in every way. Help us to be honest no matter how much it hurts. But let that honesty be coated in love. Also, help us to surround ourselves with honest people who will speak truth into our lives too. Lord, guide us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Being a Girl Who Leads: Becoming a Leader by Following Christ, by Shannon Kubiak Primicerio

Wise Up!, by Rebecca Ingram Powell

Think About It:

You will be a leader one day to someone if you are not already. Whether it be our great nation or a mother to children, you will be leading someone. What kind of leader do you want to be?

What leaders do you admire? Are they living like this Proverb?

Live It:

Decide today to walk in complete honesty and truth. Lies only get you into trouble. But be sure that all truth is spoken in love.

Make a list of ways you can cultivate honest speech in your own life. Keep it somewhere and check on it now and again to be certain you are on the right path.

Power Verses:

Proverbs 24:26, “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” (NIV)

Psalm 86:11, “Teach me your way, O LORD, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.” (NIV)

© 2009 by Angela Parsley. All rights reserved.

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What qualities do you think make a good leader?

Recipe: Flag Cake

Add some patriotic flair to your 4th of July celebration with an American flag cake!

• Make a cake in a 13x9 pan. (any flavor)




• Frost with white frosting or cool whip.




• Make a flag on top out of blueberries and raspberries (or strawberries).

It’s easy, delicious, and makes a great dessert for a potluck!

* Summer Beauty *

Summer can be such a beautiful time of year but it can also wreck havoc on your skin, hair and nails.

What’s a girl to do when she wants to have fun in the sun yet come out of it looking good? Protect, protect, protect! Here are a few tips to keep you in top shape during the hot months.

• Hair. After much time in the sun, your hair may begin taking on a greenish tint. To avoid this, wear a wide brimmed hat or baseball cap when swimming. Another option is to wet your hair before you head outdoors and apply leave-in conditioner to it. This will put a shield on your hair and protect it from the chlorine that tends to turn your hair green.
  



• Skin. Always, always wear sun protection. I’d recommend wearing at least a number 30 sunblock on your skin but make sure it protects against UVA and UVB rays. Never leave home without it, pool or no pool.
  



• Nails. Your nails will tend to dry out, chip, and peel with extended time in sun and water. Try applying a hand cream every night before bed and make sure you rub it deep into your cuticles. Wear a clear polish or your favorite color on your toes and fingernails. This will keep your nails from turning a yellowish tone when left bare.

There you go! Summer tips for your fun in the sun!

Beautiful Blessings,

Shari Braendel

www.fashionmeetsfaith.com