By: Tracie Miles
Proverbs 31 Speaker
Proverbs 31 Speaker
“Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10 (NIV)
Rejection. We all face it. Rejection comes in many forms – criticism from peers, betrayal of a friend or a boyfriend, teachers who can’t be pleased, and being turned down for your college of choice. All these have one thing in common - they are painful and can be very damaging to our self-esteem.
In the midst of rejection, we can be so focused on ourselves that it is difficult to pull away from the hurt and think clearly or rationally. Our thoughts are often, How could that person have done/said that to me? Don’t they know how much I have done for them? Have they not taken a look at themselves? We all share these thoughts when we are consumed with despair over hurtful words or actions from others.
There are three basic truths to remember in handling rejection:
Truth #1: You are made in the image of God. Genesis 1:27 says so. We are God’s most unique works of art, His masterpieces! There is no one more valuable and precious than the children of God. Remember who you are in Christ and try to see yourself through God’s eyes.
Truth #2: Rejection is only destructive when you internalize it, and allow it to creep into your personal belief system. Since we cannot control what other people think, we cannot control whether they will approve of us. We can only control our own attitudes and beliefs. If we allow the opinions of others to affect our opinions of ourselves, then we are allowing those who hurt us to control us. If we keep our thoughts focused on how much God loves us, however, we won’t dwell on the opinions of others.
Truth #3: Understand your position in Christ. We are God’s most prized possessions! We should spend time focusing on whom we do matter to, and not those to whom we do not matter. 1 Peter says we are chosen, royal, holy, accepted, and instruments for God’s work. Our position is one of royalty, and we are each a significant instrument in God’s spiritual orchestra.
During painful times in our life, we can triumph if we remember that God is our strength. He is a forgiving God, and He desires us to also be forgiving. He is sufficient to get us through our problems. He is our Almighty Redeemer.
We do not need the world’s approval, and we will never be able to please everyone. We only need God’s approval. He is waiting for you to reach out to Him so He can help you through every situation. Are you open to hear His loving, comforting voice calling you?
Dear Lord, I pray for Your wisdom on how to deal with situations in which I feel hurt, rejected and worthless. Fill me with Your love so that I can forgive others. Help me remember that Your approval and acceptance is all I need to believe that I am worthy and loved. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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Click here to learn how to forgive someone.
Ask God to intervene in your situation, and help you forgive this person and mend your relationship. It may seem hopeless, but nothing is too big for God to handle.
Create two lists. List 1: write down all the wonderful traits, talents and skills that God has gifted you with. List 2: write down all the people in your life who love. Seeing all these things on paper will help relieve the pain of the person(s) who made you feel unworthy and rejected.
Talk About It:
Unforgiveness is poison to our soul – do you need to forgive someone who has hurt you?
Are there people in your life which you would do anything to gain their approval? Would your behaviors change if you were only concerned with God’s approval, not that of man?
Psalm 36:5, “Your love, O Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.” (NIV)
1 Kings 8:50, “And forgive your people, who have sinned against you; forgive all the offenses they have committed against you, and cause their conquerors to show them mercy.” (NIV)
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