By: Lori Edwards
She Speaks Conference Graduate
“Daugters of Jerusalem, I charge you: do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Songs 8:4 (NIV)
Recently, I had a day so full of activities, deadlines, and responsibilities that I forgot to eat. By the time I got home, I was starving. Ever had a day like that?
Imagine with me that after such a crazy day, you come home and race to the kitchen expecting to find a pantry full of options to satisfy your raging hunger. But you don’t. Instead, the kitchen is empty except for one huge bag of chocolate kisses. So, you frantically rip open the bag and dump the contents into a bowl. You begin popping those little morsels of goodness into your mouth just as fast as you can remove the wrappers. One after another they melt in your mouth until you realize you’ve eaten the whole bowlful. Although the last candy kiss tastes fine individually, you begin to realize that the whole experience has left you uncomfortably full, or queasy, or both.
Now imagine that same scenario unfolding with a bag of chocolate kisses that has been blessed by God’s supernatural hand. This time something unusual happens. First of all, each candy is so satisfying that you find yourself lingering over it before rushing for the next one. Secondly, even though you are content to enjoy each chocolate kiss to its fullest before moving on, you also find that each finished candy leaves you more hungry, not less hungry, for another. Finally, by the time you’ve emptied the bowl, you realize that you are delightfully and completely satisfied. There are no regrets, second thoughts, or discomforts of any kind.
God’s blessing on the bowlful of chocolate kisses has transformed it into an entirely different – and better – experience.
This is what God wants for you on your wedding night. He wants you and your groom to be hungry for one another because neither of you has experienced anyone else. As you begin to unwrap the deeper expressions of physical affection that God intends only for a husband and wife, you are able to enjoy each one fully before going forward. When your bowlful of kisses has been completely consumed, God’s blessing on your obedience will have prevented you from experiencing second thoughts, shame, or feeling ill-at-ease.
Sadly, some girls are so eager to experience the pleasure of sex that they will arrive at their wedding night with only a few candies left to offer their groom. Others will have none left to offer at all. For them, an empty bowl will be the marker of the beginning of married life.
The world will do its best to convince you not to wait. Don’t listen. Trust God’s plan, His Word, and His timing so that you and your groom get to enjoy the blessings of a whole bowlful of kisses.
Dear Lord, I know that sexual purity is dear to Your heart. Please grant me a spirit of conviction so that I might honor You with my body by preserving my sexuality until I have found the marriage partner that You have chosen for me. Through Jesus, You can help me accomplish this very important task. I want my marriage to be the best it can be, and I thank You that Your plan and Your instructions are so trustworthy. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Ponder: 1 Corinthians 6:20, “…you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body.” (NIV)
Apply: Sit down with pen and paper and make a list of the patterns of behavior that you know would lead you away from sexual purity. Memorize the list and commit to end any relationship that begins to resemble the behaviors on your list.
Read: Teen Virtue Confidential: Your Questions About God, Guys, and Getting Older by Vicki Courtney
Share: What Scripture(s) will you commit (or have you committed) to memory to help you stay focused on your sexual integrity?
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Photo courtesy of Natasha Burns.