By: Kristen Sigmon & Amber Timmerman
I (Kristen) recently asked one of the guys in our church youth group, “What do you think about purity in dating relationships?”
“Purity is a hard thing in a relationship. Because not only is it a difficult subject to discuss with your GF it’s also a difficult subject to talk about with your friends. Culture will tell you that anything is ok, but then the majority of Christians don't know what is ok, and the church doesn't have a united front on what is and isn't ok. So teen couples are left to their own devices and knowledge to determine what is or isn't pure.”
So, what is or isn’t considered purity?
There are many definitions for purity:
1. Freedom from anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes, etc.
2. Freedom from guilt or evil; innocence
3. Physical chastity; virginity
4. Cleanness or spotlessness
But the big question is, what’s God’s definition of purity? What is it that He requires of us when it comes to purity in our lives?
Basically, it means remaining above reproach…that when people look at your life, they can’t accuse you of anything…guarding your reputation…not giving the devil any foothold in your life.
Micah 6:8 says, “…the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.” (NLT) To walk humbly with God. A good gauge for any situation you face is to ask yourself if God were in the room with you right now, would you be embarrassed for him to see what you’re doing? If the answer is yes, then it’s probably something that is compromising your purity in some way.
You may be thinking, “Okay, this is all great but how can I apply this to my life?”
Here’s a great idea! Before you get into a relationship, make a list of things you will not compromise – physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally, and even financially. For instance, “I will not watch any movies or T.V. shows or listen to any music that encourages immoral behavior; I will date someone for at least a year before kissing him; I will not spend time with my boyfriend when no one’s home; I will not say ‘I love you’ to my boyfriend until we’re engaged; I will not give up my relationship with God or my family & friends for any boyfriend.”
We at Radical Revolution would love to support you as you strive for purity. Email us at RadRevolution@proverbs31.org to share prayer requests and/or your list.
For more on this subject:
Even more than diamonds being a girl’s best friend, purity is a girl’s best friend. Want to know more? Read Amy Pucillo’s article here.
Also, check out this article on how to make a “no matter what” list for your relationship! Don't know what this is? Find out by clicking the link!
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