Cut Again: Rejection Isn't Any Better The Second Time Around!

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By: Lynn Cowell

John 8:32, "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." (NIV)

Cut again! Looking at the board in the locker room, Kari was unable to believe she had failed to make the track team for the second year in a row! She had tried so hard and she was the only one of her friends to not make it. She had worked out in the off season, well, a little bit at least. “God, why? I tried my hardest, prayed, asked my mom and some friends to pray. I even posted a verse about courage on my FB page! Why did you let this happen again?”

There is nothing harder than rejection; nothing worse than feeling like we’ve failed. So if it hurts so bad, why does God let it happen?

Mariah asked this same question when she didn’t make the basketball team in middle school. At 5’11”, everyone said she’d make the team for sure! She thought so too. So when after three grueling days of try outs the coach took her aside and told her the devastating news, she was completely shocked. “Everybody including myself expected me to make the team,” says Mariah, now 16. “The worst thing is when people say things like ‘This is for the best.’; but it really was true.”

Not making the basketball team caused Mariah to ask herself some questions; tough questions. Was basketball her passion? If so, she needed to get busy and put some effort into some serious practicing. If not, what was?

Asking this question led Mariah to face it: basketball was not her passion, nor was it her gift. What she loved was music.

Mariah took the rejection and turned it into her reach. She began to reach toward the things she loved. She joined a prestigious choir that practiced at a higher level than most and traveled. She began voice lessons and piano too. She began to invest her time and effort into what she was gifted in.

So how has this new motivation turned out? Last summer, Mariah traveled to Italy and even sang in the Vatican. This year, she tried out in her school’s exclusive chamber choir normally reserved for juniors and seniors, becoming the only sophomore to make the group. She followed her passion which led her to find her niche.

It hasn’t been easy for Mariah. Following her gifting has demanded a need for new friends; all her old friends were athletes. But as she’s making her way, she’s discovering new teens who are as crazy about music as she is!
Lord, Sometimes it’s really hard to get why you allow rejection at all. The next time it comes my way, help me to see it for what it is: something you can use! In Jesus' name, Amen.


Ponder:  "Trust in the Lord will all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take." Proverbs 3: 5 - 6 (New Living Translation)

            Ask yourself what you can do to keep from being rejected next time around.
            Ask yourself if there's something else you'd rather pursue.
            Pray about your rejection. Unload all your feelingsd to Him. He cares!

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Apply: Ask yourself what you can learn from the rejection. (Do I need to work harder?)

Share: When have you experienced rejection? Did it ultimately turn out for good?

Lynn Cowell lives in North Carolina with her family. Her first book comes out May 2nd "His Revolutionary Love; Jesus' Radical Pursuit of You". Her favorite things are sushi, anything with chocolate and peanut butter combined and a well-worn sweatshirt.

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Blogger Lynn Cowell said...

I have experienced rejection a BUNCH of times! Maybe you have too! Will you share your story with us?

I'll be sharing mine by video on Thursday :)


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