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By: Lynn Cowell

"Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of the one body." Ephesian 4:21 (NIV)

"Look at the way she's dressed?" Kami's voice snarled; gearing up for what was sure to be a "juicy" conversation.

"Yeah, where did she pick that up? It's like she's trying to be Indie or something." Allie shot back.

Moments later, the girls hopped out of the car and turned on their "nice" faces. "Hey, Mandie, you look cute today."

You've seen this; you've heard it. One tone, one set of words in front of the girl and a completely set of different ones behind her.

Maybe we just grow used to this type of conversation, words where we pick and give our opinions on everything that others say and do. Based on today's verse, Jesus makes it pretty clear that that should not be so.

"...put off falsehood and speak truthfully..." God's girls are not to be fake. We are to be the same girl, His girl, no matter who we are around. Our words should reflect the fact that the Holy Spirit lives inside of us.

Is this easy?


We are constantly bombarded with thoughts; some of them are our own, some of them are planted there by the evil that surrounds us. It is up to us to decide what to do with these thoughts. Do we ask Jesus to take control so that we put away being fake and speak truthfully? Do we use our words to bring hope and light?

We are called to more, my friend. We are called truth.

Jesus, it is so easy to get caught up in all that surrounds me. Gossip and critical chatter is easy to become a part of. Holy Spirit, today remind me of who I am and the truth that you call me to live. Amen



"What a person plants, he will harvest." Galatians 6:7 The Message


In your conversations today, slow down and listen. Are they words that bring hope and life? If not, make a point to turn them around.


"His Revolutionary Love; Jesus' Radical Pursuit of You"  - chapter 9 - We Love Together
by Lynn Cowell


What is the hardest part about not being fake when it comes to conversations with friends?

Lynn Cowell is the author of "His Revolutionary Love" and a speaker with Proverbs 31 Ministries. She loves sushi, sweatshirts and the mountians. You can connect with her on FaceBook at Lynn Martin Cowell.
Living with Purpose: A Radical Revolution ∙ A Ministry of Lynn Cowell ∙

© 2011-2012 by Lynn Cowell


Blogger WorshipDancer said...

What is the hardest part about not being fake when it comes to conversations with friends?

I'd have to say the hardest part is not getting caught up in what is being said. Girls LOVE to talk. We LOVE that connection and the way that we can sit and relate and converse for hours! But where words are many, sin can be near.

It gets dangerous when the conversation shifts to people. A common phrase I hear is "I love so-and-so, but..." As soon as they start talking about someone behind their backs, you're in a red zone. Not always, but you could be on a fence.

The way I see it as soon as the word "but" is put in there, that makes it gossip. Conditional. Love shouldn't be based on conditions.

"Love must be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourself." Romans 12:9-10

Anonymous Katie C. said...

I think the hardest part is when you realize those who do this talk about everyone. Not a single person is safe. That gets me in a really self centered, what are they saying about me? Did they see that? And it's really hard to take a step back and realize that God will never judge me from the same book they use. He loves exactly the way I am!

Blogger Lynn Cowell said...

My mom taught me, "If they'll talk to you about someone else, they'll talk about you to someone else." It's always true.

Let it not be true of RadRev Girls!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

What is the hardest part about not being fake when it comes to conversations with friends?

The hardest part is definetly knowing when to stop talking, so you dont say the wrong thing!!
Lynn I liked your advice about if someone talks to you about someone, then they will talk about you to someone else!

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