Today we have a guest, Tricia Goyer, co-author of Praying for Your Future Husband. Be sure to read all the way to the end where we are giving away a copy of this great new book!
What do you think of when you consider wearing a white dress on your wedding day? To some it's a fashion statement. To others it's a symbol of their heart and life. To me ... I was worried some would question why I was wearing a garment symbolizing purity since I was a teen mom.
I took in a deep breath as stood at the doorway to the church wearing a white dress. A lot had happened in my past--I had become sexually active too young and I had my son, but I trusted God had forgiven me. I stood there clean, forgiven, ready to start my new life with my soon-to-be husband. During my teen pregnancy, I had given my heart and life to Christ. He had pulled me out of the pit of pain and sin that I'd found myself in. He'd cleansed me by taking my sin upon Him and giving me His purity instead. I knew that because of Christ, God saw me standing at the church aisle pure. Wearing white wasn't just a tradition at that moment. It was a symbol of how I looked to God:
“Come now, let’s settle this,” says the Lord.
“Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, I will make them as white as wool.
Isaiah 1:18 (NLT)
Because of Jesus washing away my sins, I was as white as snow inside. I wanted my dress to reflect that. And you know what, when I walked down the aisle and saw John's smile, he saw me that way, too. Beautiful. Pure. His. In fact, even after being married twenty years John still calls me his bride. “How's my bride today? Where would my bride like to go to dinner? What'd I'd love most right now is a kiss from my bride.”
If you are like me and have acted in ways that made your impure, you don't have to hang on to those feelings of shame. God can cleanse you and make you pure. He wants that more than anything.
And maybe, like me, you also worried that a good, godly guy would never want you. That he'd see you as damaged goods. I'm a testimony that that doesn't have to be the case. Start praying for that now—pray for your future husband to see you as the pure, beautiful one Christ has made you to be. A guy like that is out there. Trust. Believe.
When everything was hopeless,
Abraham believed anyway,
deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn't do
but on what God said he would do.
He didn't tiptoe around God's promise asking cautiously skeptical questions.
He plunged into the promise and came up strong, ready for God,
sure that God would make good on what he had said.
But it's not just Abraham;
it's also us!
. . . we embrace and believe the One who brought Jesus to life
when the conditions were equally hopeless.
The sacrificed Jesus made us fit for God, set us right with God.
Romans 4:18, 22 MSG
What About You?
Like me, maybe you've already given your heart away. Maybe you've given more. There are times in our lives when we think we know what we're doing. Our heart tells us what it wants most of all, and we allow our mind and body to follow. Yet if it's something you feel you have to hide … can it be good?
The thing is, even if you've given yourself away completely, you can choose any day to start again. You don't have to continue down that path. Today can be your new beginning. Just because you strayed off God's perfect plan for you, doesn't mean the rest of your life will only be second rate. The moment you surrender yourself and turn over yourself to God, from that moment you will have God's best. You are forgiven, pure.
Maybe you haven't given your body away, but what about your emotions? Have you thought, dreamed, hoped, and connected with someone and gotten yourself tangled, too? The untangling can begin today. You can begin the healing that will prepare you for your future husband.
To be a part of today's give away, simply say, "I'm in!" under the comments symbolizing that you too want to be pure in body and mind! Be sure to leave an email address so we can contact you if you are the winner!